{ Sunday, May 08, 2005
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY.
to all mommy's out there.
pamper your kids as you want them to pamer their kids next time.
afterall.you want the best for your grandkids if not for your kids right?
this came out in today's life section.
well!
RGS Girls and Their Low Growls
Colin Goh
Recently, the Wife and I were invited to speak at a Singaporean students’ forum at Brown University.
Over dinner, we were chattering with some undergraduates from various colleges in the northeastern United States, when a young fellow started grousing about how Singaporean guys found dating tough in the US.
He described the situation as very “LPPL” (go look it up in the Coxford Singlish Dictionary or ask the nearest Beng) as American girls were too intimidating to approach, while Singaporean girls seemed to prefer American guys.
Of course, this being an undergrad setting, people began analyzing this with post-colonial theory. Did Singaporean men really have a raw deal, being made to feel inferior to the women of the dominant cultural power, and also being perceived by their own women as inferior to the men of the dominant cultural power?
There was the feeling that the appeal of Western men to Singapore women was at least partly due to Singapore women associating Western men with power and sophistication – a function of their portrayal in Western-dominated media.
Further, some unscrupulous Western men were capitalizing on this. (in simpur Engrish, it’s not Singapore men’s fault that Singapore women all kena voodoo by TV and then kena chiong by some half-past-six ang mohs.)
The Wife then asked the chappie, “What’s the difference between Singapore men going to Vietnam to shop for brides?”
“Theoretically the same, lor” came the answer. “But Western men have a choice. Singapore men go overseas because we boh pian. But when we go overseas, the women also complain. Everything we do is not good enough.”
Recently, there’s been a spate of articles, even a movie, reinforcing this perception that Singapore women are too picky. But what do the women think?
Surprisingly, a former RGS girl said that in her experience, this was true. When she and her friends got together, they discussed boys “like baseball cards”, that is, as a mere agglomeration of attributes: who’s richer, who’s got what degree from where, etc.
“So it’s all true!” the boys moaned in unison.
But, I ventured, don’t men rate women the same way? The criteria is different, that’s all. There were murmurings of agreement among the boys.
One fellow admitted that he and his friends even had a hierarchy of girls’ schools: Convent girls were the most havoc (consistent with their worldwide reputation. Pope Benedict, are you listening?), while lady-like SCGS girls were the nicest to date, but would transmogrify into high maintenance tai-tais upon marriage.
“But RGS girls,” he said, pointedly referring to Singapore’s top school. “They’re damn weird. (WAHLAO.WE'RE NOT WEIRD LA.JUST ECCENTRIC) Have you heard them cheer at sports meets? They sound like men! And not girly men – cave men.”(SERIOUS?! NO WE DON'T.)
There was a resounding “Yah!”, even from girls from other schools. (THEY DARE!)
The RGS girls didn’t deny it – but tried to explain that the adoption of a low growl was to conserve one’s voice, enabling them to cheer longer.
However, a former RGS teacher later told me that the growl was an agreement reached between RGS, RI, so the Raffles family could “cheer with one voice” – that voice apparently belonging to Vin Diesel’s meaner brother.
“Maybe,” said another chap, “But hearing that sure scares the boys from dating RGS girls.” (then how come so many rgs girls have bfs? must be all ri one...like.we're how much manlier than them right.that's why they like.)
I was suddenly struck that this, in some perverse way, mirrored the problem discussed earlier: that Singapore men are both falling short of, and being intimidated by, Singapore women’s expectations – expectations which Singapore men view as unreasonably high.
But really, these expectations arose because women nowadays are simply behaving and sounding more like men – literally, in the case of RGS. And it’s really stupid to say, “You’re being unfair to me, because you’re being like me.”
While I feel some sympathy, I’m getting increasingly annoyed by men pleading for women to be less picky – because it makes us sound whiny. What does it say about us men that we would want women to dumb down their expectations for us, or actively seek women with lower expectations? As my old RSM would say, “You damn no pride!”
The fact is, asking women to be less picky is really an argument borne of men’s laziness. If we really want them to desire us, then we have to do better, not to ask them to want less. It’s tough, yes, because the dice are stacked in many ways but it beats wimping out.
So, women, if your men start whining, follow RGS and give them a good old growl.
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fellow rgs girls!
this article says. rgs girls scare men away!
because we cheer like men.
WHERE GOT.
okay la got.
but we don't scare them away what right.
we're a whole lot better than scgs girls or convent girls.
we don't transmogrify into high maintenance taitais
we become independent high class women
who have alot more matter than just fluff and dust up there
and who have better characters instead of acting all cutesy and sweet and helpless so guys can macho
due to our haha!CLE LESSONS.who knew they'd be so useful.
AND WE'RE NOT WEIRD!
we're just like any other girls out there striving to prove ourselves.
and we are more than they are.
we have manly voices!from the many years of cheering lower than unpubertised sec one ri boyboys, as well as some other boyboys.
which is damn sexy don't you think?
like we can uh.purrsay things all low and sexy.
much better than screaming like a wild whore or banshee.
spoil your ears lor.ours are at least of a much more tolerable wavelength.
but having manly voices when cheering doesn't mean we can't speak normally too.just hear Unite!we can scream also.that's proof.
there's just so many other things i can say.
at least we're unique.
see we don't look aggressive or scary at all!
in fact we look so friendly don't we?
and yes we can spell LOVE.
we LOVE all the mommas today
`SAYYOULOVEME.;
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